How to Prepare for Your First Family Court Hearing
Your first family court hearing can feel overwhelming, especially if you're representing yourself. The process may seem unfamiliar, and emotions often run high. But with the right preparation, you can enter the courtroom feeling confident and ready to present your case. Here’s what you need to know before your first family court hearing.
1. Understand the Purpose of the Hearing
Different types of hearings serve different functions. Are you attending a case conference, motion hearing, or trial management conference? Understanding what will happen at your hearing helps you prepare the right materials and focus on the right arguments.
What to do:
Check your court documents to confirm what type of hearing you’re attending.
Research the rules for your specific hearing in Alberta’s family court system.
2. Get Your Documents in Order
Judges expect you to be organized and prepared. Ensure you have all required documents, including:
Your application or response documents
Financial disclosure forms (if applicable)
Past court orders (if relevant)
Any supporting evidence (emails, receipts, agreements, etc.)
A summary of your key points (to keep you focused)
Pro tip: Use a binder or digital folder labeled by category to stay organized.
3. Practice What You Want to Say
Self-representing doesn’t mean winging it! The more you practice explaining your position, the more confident you’ll feel in court.
What to do:
Write out key points in bullet form so you can refer to them easily.
Rehearse in front of a mirror or with a friend.
Keep your arguments short, clear, and fact-based.
4. Know Courtroom Etiquette
Family court follows strict protocols, and knowing them can help you make a positive impression.
✅ Arrive early (at least 30 minutes before)
✅ Dress professionally (business casual or formal)
✅ Address the judge properly ("Your Honour" in Provincial Court, “My Lord” or “My Lady” in Court of King’s Bench)
✅ Stay calm and composed (even if the other party is difficult)
✅ Listen carefully and only speak when it's your turn
5. Prepare Emotionally for Seeing Your Ex
If your former partner will be in court, stay focused on your case—not them. High emotions can cloud your judgment and hurt your presentation.
How to stay calm:
Take deep breaths and focus on your legal arguments.
Remind yourself why you’re there—to advocate for yourself and your family.
If things escalate, stay professional and let the judge handle interruptions.
6. Have a Backup Plan
Court doesn’t always go as expected. Be prepared for:
Adjournments (delays to another date)
Unexpected questions from the judge
A ruling you may not agree with
If things don’t go your way, stay professional and ask about next steps or possible appeals.
Final Thoughts:
Preparation is key to feeling confident in family court. If you need help getting ready, I offer virtual legal information sessions to guide you through the process.
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